Did you know that the divorce rate in a blended family is close to 70% when both partners have kids?! I’d like to share the story of how my husband and I almost got divorced…
Several years ago, my husband and I were both single parents. We met and fell in love quickly and had so much hope as we started our little blended family. We both valued family and marriage, so we knew we’d be able to make it work. We thought we would all quickly connect with each other and would get into our groove right away.
As soon as we got married, it immediately felt like we were trying to mix oil and water.This was HARD! Even harder than going through a divorce.The kids were constantly fighting—competition with each other, we had co-parenting struggles with an ex partner, the ever-changing schedules of kids brought a lot of frustration and change, there was disrespect, and many miscommunications.
To make things worse…
it started to affect my physical health just a few short months in, I even ended up in the hospital for a week! It couldn't continue like this.
I was completely discouraged, overwhelmed, and exhausted. I often wondered what I was thinking by putting myself in this mess. I wanted to quit because it seemed so much easier and I couldn’t see how anything was going to change.
I started looking for resources to help— going to a therapist, reading books, and asking family/friends for advice but it just wasn’t bringing any relief. I was tired, felt like we were a lost cause, and we even briefly contemplated DIVORCE.
I kept thinking, "there has got to be another answer, it shouldn’t be this hard!" I knew we needed some professional help but couldn't find any. I spent countless nights praying for guidance and direction. I started testing out lots of ideas on my own. I made tons of mistakes and learned most things through several YEARS of trial and error. We learned all the lessons the HARD WAY. Eventually, I started to learn how to overcome the overwhelm! I figured out where to put my focus and efforts as the stepparent and learned strategies and tools that work specifically for blended families! Blended families don’t function the same as nuclear families.
WHAT HAPPENED?!
My marriage grew into a partnership of deep love, respect, and friendship.
The kids started to get along and eventually became best friends!
We all learned how to appreciate our differences.
We found ways to make our kids’ schedules and co-parenting work for us
AND We had so much fun together that we decided to add two more kids to the mix!
I became a Certified Stepparent Coach and Life Coach so I can help other families beat high the odds of divorce.
If you’re ready to overcome the overwhelm, stop wasting years in frustration, and step in to your blended family bravely—I invite you to get on a call with me!
Just like a coach for business or sports, I will help you grow by analyzing your current situation and possible challenges/frustrations. We will work together to put an action plan in place using your unique situation and research based evidence that will help you work towards the goals and outcomes that you desire for your family.
This situation is actually quite common. The short answer is yes! Even if only one partner wants to participate, you will still be able to see lots of growth and gain a lot of understanding. You’re encouraged to discuss what you learn and share it with your partner.
Coaching is for anyone who wants to improve performance! If I’m a decent athlete but want to perform even better, then I’d get a coach. The same is true for your family. You may be coping well but can see potential for improvement.
Best results are seen after about 4-6 months
On top of my life experience as a step mom, adoptive mom, and biological mom, I am a certified life coach, certified stepparent coach, and a licensed educator.
We can be flexible with scheduling. I typically recommend once a week.
I offer a 1:1 coaching package and a special hybrid group coaching/individual coaching/online courses package.
You’re currently in or looking to be part of a blended family
You’re feeling inadequate in your role as stepparent
You’d like a stronger family connection
You want your marriage to beat the odds of divorce and thrive
You can see a gap in where you currently are and where you want to be
You’re willing to make changes and put forth effort
You want to turn your challenges into victories
You want to be your best self and feel respect
You want to accelerate your results
You’re looking for a “magic pill” where your life is changed immediately without making any changes or putting in any work.
You aren’t willing to look at your situation honestly
You have a current mental health condition. (I can help you with many things, but I am NOT a therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist. Please see a trained provider if your condition currently affects your functionality)
Your current family situation
Your dreams and hopes for your family
Working through tough step family situations
Working with a former partner
Processing uncomfortable feelings
Building your confidence
Strengthening your marriage
Setting realistic and attainable goals
Communicating effectively
Below are all my coaching pricing and sessions I have available as in person sessions or online sessions.
Get access to a private group for discounted sessions/webinars, Facebook lives,
Subscribe for $5/Month"Throughout my life, I have had many counselors, seeing them for various reasons. Brittney really listened to my goals and I felt heard. I have gained so much more working with her than I did with my previous counselors. The idea of looking forward, and not back, in our sessions allowed me to grow so much in my healing. Our sessions had a focus. She gave weekly homework - which I usually don't like to do, but did it and could immediately see that I gained so much focus and peace in my life. Working with Brittney as my life coach was wonderful. I continue to use the skills she taught and appreciate her patience and kindness. I have tools to lean on that Brittney shared in each session. I looked forward to my sessions with Brittney and am so grateful for her life coaching guidance and tools."
"Brittney is a phenomenal coach. Her style is personable and empathetic. She has a rare combination of expertise and experience with blending families that is incredibly valuable. Over my 8 sessions with Brittney, she provided very helpful and practical; research, statistics, exercises, advice, resources, recommendations, support and homework. The tools she gave me improved my marriage—our marital relationship is the best it's ever been. Learning from Brittney as a trained expert who also has walked this path saved me so much avoidable heartache and failure. She also inspired me to think about my career and family goals—which directly contributed to landing my dream job 5 years earlier than anticipated. Having Brittney as my life coach has accelerated my happiness and success. She's worth every penny and I'd recommend her in a heartbeat to anyone blending a family."
“I loved working with Brittney. She is very positive and catered her sessions to help me grow as a person. I loved how she was able to understand what was important to me and bring it to the forefront. She helped me to envision possibilities in my life in a way that I hadn't before. I definitely recommend working with her!”
"Thank you, Brittney! You thoughtfully answered all of my questions and had WONDERFUL solutions and caring responses. I came in thinking this one area was the only issue, you helped me realize that there are multiple ways to improve a situation empathetically. ALL of my relationships have improved. I did 8 sessions which was a GREAT way to get my family going in a better direction, and will continue to work with you when confusing situations arise, which we all know they will. Blending a family is hard work, but you helped me reframe my thinking and gave me tools to pull out when needed. Thank you so much!!"
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