5 Summer Challenges Every Blended Family Faces (and How to Solve Them)

Ah, summer—the season of sunshine, vacations, and kids running through the house like caffeinated squirrels. While most families look forward to the relaxed pace, blended families know that summer often comes with its own unique set of challenges. Between custody schedules, different parenting styles, and the never-ending question of “Whose house are we eating dinner at tonight?”, summer can feel more stressful than relaxing. But don’t worry—you’re not alone in this. Let’s talk about five common summer struggles and how to navigate them with confidence (and maybe even a little bit of joy).

1. The Visitation Schedule Shuffle

Summer schedules often look nothing like the rest of the year. Longer visitation periods, extended trips, and adjusting to a completely different routine can throw everyone off balance. You might be dealing with kids bouncing between homes like pinballs or an ex who loves to change plans at the last minute.

Solution: A little planning goes a long way. Sit down with your spouse early in the season to map out schedules, expectations, and backup plans (because let’s be real—things WILL change). If last-minute changes throw you off, try to keep a “go-with-the-flow” mindset and focus on what you can control: your home, your reactions, and your attitude.

2. Different Parenting Styles on Full Display

During the school year, structured routines help smooth over parenting differences. But summer? That’s when you see everything. One parent thinks screen time is the devil; the other lets the kids play video games until their thumbs cramp. One house enforces chores, while the other has a “free-for-all” policy.

Solution: Instead of trying to force everyone into the same rules, focus on consistency in your home. A simple phrase like, “Every home has different rules, and in our home, we do things this way” can work wonders. Over time, kids adjust to different expectations in different homes—so don’t stress about being the “mean” house. Your structure is a gift, even if they don’t see it right now.

3. Family Vacations… or Stepfamily Stress-Fests?

Ah, the dream of a picture-perfect vacation—until reality kicks in. Different expectations, kids missing their other parent, or feeling like an “outsider” can make blended family trips feel less like a getaway and more like a pressure cooker.

Solution: Lower the pressure! Instead of forcing a “we must all bond every second” mindset, create moments of connection organically. Give kids (and yourself) space to recharge. And if someone is struggling, acknowledge it: “I know this feels different, and that’s okay. We’re going to have a great time together.” A little validation goes a long way!

4. The "I'm Bored" Blues

The school year keeps kids busy, but summer? Suddenly, they expect you to be a full-time activities director. If you’ve ever heard “I’m boooored” 47 times in a row, you know the struggle.

Solution: Involve them in planning! Create a “Summer Bucket List” together—giving them a say in activities makes them more likely to enjoy them. And don’t be afraid to let them be gasp bored. Boredom sparks creativity. Just keep a few easy “go-to” activities in your back pocket for when the whining gets out of control.

5. The Emotional Rollercoaster

Big transitions (like summer) bring big emotions—especially for stepkids. Excitement, anxiety, sadness, frustration… it all comes out in different ways. Some withdraw. Others act out. And sometimes, you’re left wondering, “Did I do something wrong?”

Solution: Remind yourself: it’s not about you. Transitions are hard, and kids don’t always have the tools to express their feelings in a healthy way. Instead of taking it personally, create space for them to talk. A simple, “I can see you’re feeling a lot right now. Do you want to talk or just hang out together?” can help them feel safe.

Final Thoughts: You’re Doing Better Than You Think

Summer in a blended family isn’t always smooth sailing, but that doesn’t mean you’re failing. You’re navigating challenges that most people never have to think about—and that takes strength. So give yourself some grace.

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